Brenda: What Do Our Hands Tell Us About Ourselves?

By Brenda Calloway Let’s talk about hands, as I think hands are fascinating. They can be used for all kinds of communication -- everything...

By Brenda Calloway

Let’s talk about hands, as I think hands are fascinating. They can be used for all kinds of communication -- everything from a happy wave to an angry middle finger. They can be used to do good or evil. They can be used to heal, help, uplift, or they can be used to hurt, maim or kill.

Hands can be useful, as with cleaning or building, and they can be lazy and do absolutely nothing. They can be used for having fun, working hard and serving others. Hands can even speak their own language. Hands are fascinating.

If you stop and think about it, so many people today find themselves in the news because of something they used their hands to do. They might be in the news because of using their hands to save someone’s life, or serve a fellow being. They might be in the news because they used their hands to take something that didn’t belong to them or worse yet, to hurt someone else.

In some countries, people lose their hands as a punishment, because the governing bodies know that taking someone’s hands is a punishment that will stop most lawless acts. It’s quite final and cannot be reversed.

I was contemplating my hands a few years ago and was having a bit of a pity party about the subject, until I had my perspective changed. I found myself, one afternoon, complaining to my sister about my hands starting to look old. I was going on and on about how they not only looked more manly then they should (my sister has very nimble and what we would consider feminine fingers/hands, while I took more after my father in this department) but now they were also looking old and worn out.

Shouldn’t I have gotten the thick long hair, the fast metabolism and the beautiful hands. since I was born first? She should have gotten the left-over thin hair, nonexistent metabolism and man-ish hands, not I. I can’t wear thick rings or bracelets like my thick haired, beautiful handed sister can. I also can’t use a full-sized pony tail holder, but that’s a complaint for another day.

I was not happy about my hands getting age spots or wrinkles. I then went on to compare them to my grandparents' hands and wasn’t being as appreciative, as I should have been, for having two working and fully functional appendages.

As I was complaining, my sister stopped me in my tracks. She asked me if I had ever looked ... truly looked closely ... at our mother’s or grandmother’s hands? I told her I had. She asked me if I thought they were ugly or deformed. Were they monstrous to look at? I told her, no! Of course not. She then went on to tell me that she used to study their hands and would see all of the lines, wrinkles, calluses, spots, etc., and that she thought they were beautiful.

In those lines and calluses, she saw years of love and service to their families. In those wrinkles, she saw these women truly living life and enjoying each moment. In those hands, she saw beauty.

This one conversation, that my sister may or may not even remember, completely flipped the way I saw aging. After all, age is not a gift afforded to all. I now enjoy that my hands are looking older. I am happy to put as many years of love, life and service on them as I possibly can before I go on to the next stage of life. I appreciate my strong and able hands for what they are -- instruments to give, serve, love and enjoy life with.

Someday, maybe I’ll write about the lesson I learned in appreciating my stretch marks -- ha ha! Until then, and until next week, I want to leave you with a parting thought. If everyone in this world could stop using their hands for negative things, and everyone used their hands for the greater good, what a world we would live in!

Here is a recipe for amazing, chemical free and all natural hand lotion that will keep your hands happy and moisturized so that they can keep enjoying and loving life:

Rich and Creamy Lotion

1 c. coconut oil
1 c. Shea butter
1 ½ T. jojoba oil
5 drops each of your favorite essential oils
(we use peppermint, orange and lavender)
¼ to ½ t. tee tree oil/melaleuca oil
3-4 capsules of vitamin E (prick with needle and squeeze into lotion mixture)

Place coconut oil and Shea butter into glass mixing bowl. Place glass bowl in sink partially filled with very hot water. Once oils have melted/softened, mix with whisk until completely incorporated. Take bowl out of sink and place on counter. Add jojoba oil, any essential oils to be used, tee tree oil and vitamin E. Mix well. Pour into glass jars (small mason jars work great). Allow lotion to set up and then keep in jars for storage. Use as needed on dry or ashy skin.
(For external use only)


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